IF YOURE EGYPTIAN AND LGBTQ+ GET OFF ANY QUEER DATING SITES, THE POLICE ARE TRACKING AND HUNTING PEOPLE DOWN AGAIN. DELETE YOUR ACCOUNTS.
This is very real.
I DON’T CARE IF YOU HAVE ONLY ONE FOLLOWER PLEASE EVERYONE REBLOG THIS!!!
just got a chance to read the detransition chapter of ryan anderson’s new book. absolutely disgusted to have had my work misappropriated by the heritage foundation’s homophobic goons. no permission was sought to use my original content, nor would it have been given.
Submission: Life after 30yrs on T
I found this blog while reading an article in a local rag. With a few exceptions, it seems that most of the contributors here are much younger than I am and have all come to this subject after having been transitioning for less than 5 years. I transitioned 30 years ago and have been vocal about reversal for the last 7. My transition to male is complete, right down to the gender marker on my BC and passport, and I have been very successful in the process- the joys of “male privilege” at work- unfortunately.
I applaud the “audacity” and bravado it took to put this conversation online. I’ve been speaking to countless people over the years about this subject- to most trans folks’ dismay and outrage. Most of them are afraid of the “bubble” bursting I suppose. Many use it to accuse me of trying to deter people from transitioning. None of them like to know about the messy stuff.
I came out as lesbian in 1976. I began transitioning in 1986- before the advent of the internet. My motivation was different than the average trans person’s. I had/have no desire to be a man. I’m masculine identified and an “old school” butch dyke, which made me a huge target for homophobes in those days. It was a survival tactic of the times. I was openly evicted from apartments and blatantly declined employment because the anti discrimination laws that we enjoy today, were not in place. I had a daughter to raise and transitioning seemed the logical step.
I’m an advocate in my communities, the times have changed, and my transition doesn’t work for me anymore for many significant reasons.
There has been progress made in the LGBT community that I would never have imagined in my 20’s/30’s. But because of the immensity of this journey to the end, I don’t see much of a reversal for myself. I transitioned with all the gatekeepers in place. It was too much work and I went through hell to get here and one transition in life is plenty.
My message has always been that there is more to this journey than what a person looks like. I just want folks to think about it long and hard. Get some counseling and remember that your transition affects everyone and everything in your life- not always for the best.
Mod Jackal: Thank you so much for your story. We do skew younger here so the perspective of someone older is especially valuable. If you’d like to talk more feel free to contact me on @genderatheism , I’m local as well. You could also submit this story to @detrans-identified –again, mostly younger people but it’s a good blog of people’s stories of detransition/disidentification.
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It’s not “self harm”
FtMs are not giving themselves double mastectomies and metoidioplasties and phalloplasties and hysterectomies. Surgeons are. Doctors and therapists are signing off on it. Insurance companies are approving these as medical necessities. Parents are helping their kids get these surgeries. In some places, the State pays for these surgeries. Hospitals are accommodating patients for these surgeries, nurses are attending to patients who get these surgeries.
When there are complications? When there are blood clots or strictures or fistulas, who left the scars? Who did their job badly? This is not “self harm.” It is medical abuse.
Psychologists are diagnosing the condition that allows their patients to be eligible for surgery and hormone replacement therapy. Boards of clinicians are making decisions about the future of care for dysphoric people. Someone is out there teaching and licensing the people who give these diagnoses. Plenty of people are out there making money off “informed consent.”
When someone takes a prescription medication in the prescribed dosage as instructed by a doctor, they are not “self-harming” with testosterone. They are following a doctor’s orders. They are taking a medication prescribed by a doctor based on a diagnosis that some psychologist gave them.
When there is harm done (BY WHO?) to the patient during medical transition, this is medical abuse: there are virtually no studies on the long-term impacts of testosterone on our health; they treat us as less than lab rats not worthy to even keep data on. They use us for experimental surgery and do their jobs so poorly that some patients have brought lawsuits against them, for example Dr. Curtis Crane.
Butch women of past generations didn’t do this because it wasn’t offered, wasn’t pushed, wasn’t made into the only option, wasn’t paid for by insurance, wasn’t something you could walk into a planned parenthood and receive, wasn’t encouraged by the lgbt community, wasn’t available.
I recently saw someone asking if trans-related surgeries should be considered “self-mutilation.” It is misguided, victim-blaming, and willfully ignorant to say yes. There is a huge, complex web of people who created this situation we are now in, with doctors who are making a living solely from doing transition-related double mastectomies, one after another, every day, like a factory, giving out hormones after a 15-minute discussion and a single page printout of information, and leaving us to fend for ourselves when something goes wrong or doesn’t work out in the process of transition.
With most any other feminist issue you will find not just willingness to name the agent, but a direction of approach that focuses on naming the agent and placing the spotlight on the perpetrators. In other feminist issues, it’s much more emphasized to dig out and shed light on the underlying institutions that created and perpetuate the problem. But not this one. When it comes to females who transition, radical feminists love to place focus on the victim herself as being problematic. I think it’s appalling that radical feminists can name trans ideology as a cult, but turn around and make fun of women and girls who get caught up in it. And I think it’s purposefully provocative and obscuring to use language like “self-mutilation” in reference to life-changing surgeries that are simultaneously named as patriarchal creations to subjugate women. It’d be nice if more women could look up from that headless photo online used without permission long enough to see the big picture here.
Please stop fixating on the victims you claim to defend with objectifying, dehumanizing language and look instead to the plethora of perpetrators that can be named and that feminists could take action against.
Give those of us with a trans history the respect of listening to our perspective before using us as a talking point. Stop ogling sensationalist, circular, dime-a-dozen shock articles/blog posts/etc and thinking it’s doing anything to help the women who are harmed by medical transition. Name the agent. Name the perpetrators.
wow it sure would be nice if trans men could make the news or be famous for something other than being porn stars or getting pregnant
Sex/gender dysphoria has a root. Whether you’re male or female , there is a root to all of the separate and complex thoughts & feelings we, in my opinion, simplify to the word “dysphoria”. Hating your breasts and wanting to get a double mastectomy is a specific feeling, which is completely different to the feeling of hating your voice because it is feminine - whiny, nagging, unimportant, unheard. Yet these are two complex feelings which, before I spent time analysing my dysphoria for what it is and picking it apart, I would just describe as “feeling dysphoric”. I just wish sex/gender dysphoric people had the resources, ability and safety to understand their dysphoria and how if you can look closer at each individual feeling you’d lump under dysphoria and see it for what it is, think about how you may have been socialised to feel that way, you may be able to heal those wounds - or not, but you deserve the chance to heal before you make major, sometimes permanent decisions. It’s normal not to want to have breasts when you’ve been violated for being female your entire life, on various scales. It’s normal to hate your voice when it has been silenced and treated as lesser, to want your opinion to be as valuable as men’s. Your feelings aren’t just nothing, you deserve to heal. If transitioning is best for you after you’ve considered the root of your dysphoria & made an informed decision then I’m happy for you, I love you, I hope your future is bright and you are happy. I just don’t want people to make these decisions without knowing why.
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learning new skills from other womyn is so healing. we’re staying on womyns land and last night one of the elder lesbians who lives there taught me how to roll my own cigarettes (I’m learning so I can make my own herbals and cut down on tobacco, smoking is bad kids). sure, I could have just gone on YouTube. sure, there’s a wikiHow article for just about anything and you don’t have to talk to anyone new or even leave the house. but you don’t get that connection. every time you use that skill you can remember who taught it to you. and when another womyn asks you how you do whatever it is, you can say “here, let me show you how I was taught” and pass it on. combat our cultural obsession with over-individualism and instant gratification.
Anonymous asked: I know this was from a while ago. But I'm building a resource of transgender educational materials. The detransition survey is really interesting. Is there a pdf of it that can be linked to?
I don’t have a PDF of it, no. What’s on the page is all that’s published. I considered doing a more extensive write up, but as I’ve been collaborating on an official research study of detransition, I’ve decided to focus on that and leave the unofficial survey as is.
radfems need to take children being trans more seriously instead of saying that they were “forced to”. no child is being forced to be trans, and no child wants to. the child simply had dysphoria and decided to become the opposite gender. but what do you expect when cis people have their head up their asses too long?
If I have to read another article that basically sounds like “me and my husband were at church this Sunday and our little boy Jimmy said he wanted to wear a dress that a fellow member was wearing! I had seen him occasionally touch a Barbie and had often wondered how Terrible it’d be if he were gay. Eventually we took him to a gender therapist and after two session Jimmy because Janey. I’m so happy to have a daughter that I can finally confine within the cage of feminity like my mother did me, even if she used to be he💞💞💞💞” I think I’m gonna gauge my fucking eyes out and send them to you for making this God awful post. Puberty blockers have been shown to cause so much harm to people. Forcing to people to transition is literally something the do in countries it’s illegal to be gay, but you can fathom for a God damn second that there isn’t a certain level of coercion to telling gender non conforming kids (who btw often times do end up being gay later in life!) that their actually the opposite sex because they like pink instead of blue when these children seem to overwhelmingly come from conservative households??? No level of coersion to getting doctors to recommend EXPENSIVE drugs that have had little research done on them to desperate parents??? That doesn’t??? Even cross your mind once???? God damn. Y'all are so irritating!!!!!!
and like… literally just from a child psychology standpoint, children tend to have very concrete worldviews where if you say “girls like dolls and boys like trains” and they, a boy, like dolls, they won’t think “oh, well daddy is wrong”, they’ll think “daddy is right, so I must be a girl” - especially wrt little girls who may express wanting to be a boy cuz like they’re not dumb and they see their brothers and boy cousins can do way more than they can (rough house, play in the dirt, get away with things, play outside shirtless, etc). I don’t think many (if any) “trans” kids have legitimate dysphoria, especially not prepubescent kids.
The majority of children grow out of their dysphoria into healthy homosexual adults.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18981931/
“CONCLUSIONS:
Most children with gender dysphoria will not remain gender dysphoric after puberty. Children with persistent GID are characterized by more extreme gender dysphoria in childhood than children with desisting gender dysphoria. With regard to sexual orientation, the most likely outcome of childhood GID is homosexuality or bisexuality.”http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25231780
“…as the World Professional Association for Transgender Health notes in their latest Standards of Care, gender dysphoria in childhood does not inevitably continue into adulthood, and only 6 to 23 percent of boys and 12 to 27 percent of girls treated in gender clinics showed persistence of their gender dysphoria into adulthood.”
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2697020/#!po=45.0000
“Multiple longitudinal studies provide evidence that gender-atypical behavior in childhood often leads to a homosexual orientation in adulthood, but only in 2.5% to 20% of cases to a persistent gender identity disorder (3, 6, 22). Even among children who manifest a major degree of discomfort with their own sex, including an aversion to their own genitalia (GID in the strict sense), only a minority go on to an irreversible development of transsexualism.”
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18194003/
“At follow-up, 3 participants (12%) were judged to have GID or gender dysphoria. Regarding sexual orientation, 8 participants (32%) were classified as bisexual/homosexual in fantasy, and 6 (24%) were classified as bisexual/homosexual in behavior. The remaining participants were classified as either heterosexual or asexual…
It is conceivable that the childhood criteria for GID may “scoop in” girls who are at relatively low risk for adolescent/adult gender dysphoria that revolves so much around somatic indicators.“
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4345542/
“In a study of pre-pubertal male and female children with gender dysphoria followed-up approximately 10 years later, only 27 percent of children with gender dysphoria remained gender dysphoric at follow-up [10]. Of those individuals who no longer expressed gender dysphoria at follow-up, a significant portion (all female and half the male participants) expressed a non-heterosexual sexual orientation [9]. Thus, gender concerns in neurotypical children prior to puberty may represent a developmental process related to both gender and sexuality for many individuals. ”
STOP PATHOLOGIZING GENDER NONCONFORMITY STOP MEDICALIZING HOMOSEXUALITY STOP TRANSITIONING CHILDREN INSTEAD OF DEVELOPING HEALTHY THERAPIES TO MANAGE DSYPHORIA
DO YOU KNOW YOU’RE SUPPORTING CONVERSION THERAPY?
Highlights from J. Michael Bailey:
- One of the best established correlates of sexual orientation is childhood gender nonconformity.
- Although the link between childhood gender nonconformity and adult homosexuality is well established (especially for men), much less research has been done on adult gender nonconformity.
- Gender nonconforming people (particularly gender nonconforming boys) are often mistreated in our society. It would not be surprising if this mistreatment had negative consequences with respect to mental health or general adjustment. (The fact that gender nonconforming homosexual people sometimes experience prejudice from other homosexual people cannot help.)
More about the persistent side effects of puberty blockers:
“Drug used to halt puberty in children may cause lasting health problems”
“For most adolescents, the potential benefits of such treatment will not outweigh the risks.”
If I had been born 20 years later I would have been a trans kid. A psychologist even told my parents that I had a “male mind”, but back in the early 2000s people still knew this is bullshit.
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